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Husband Attention to his wife decreased |after marriage issues | shadi k side effects |Ikram ehsass

1. You Missed the Mark When It Came to Communication
Not only is communication important in maintaining a bond with each other, how you communicate will determine how strong of a bond. The way a couple communicates is as important as the ability to communicate.
Below are four negative communication traits that may have killed his love for you.
Giving him the silent treatment
When you refuse to talk and discuss problems you slowly destroy the love that is the foundation of a marriage.
Refusing to communicate is a disrespectful manner of communicating how you are feeling. Did you give him the silent treatment when he pissed you off? If so, all you managed to do was push him away and build a wall that restricted intimacy.
Being on the defensive
If you viewed statements made by your husband as accusations, you probably responded in a defensive manner. Being defensive is not communication, it’s a game of who is right and who is wrong. When you start keeping score, love eventually pays the price.

2. You Were a Clingy Wife
My 8th grade home economics teacher taught us that once couples marry they “became one.” She was wrong! Couples do not become one and believing so is a death sentence to autonomy and love.

For love to thrive a wife and husband should remain autonomous, fully individualized outside the relationship and marriage.

Wanting your husband to spend all his time with you because you believe it is an expression of how much he loves you is a sign of immaturity in you, not proof that he loves you
3. Your Marriage had a Bad Beginning
In order for a couple to weather the storms…the ups and downs of marital life, they need a strong, healthy beginning. Below are a few examples of poor relationship foundations. Beginnings that could cause either spouse to eventually lose loving feelings for the other.
4. You Didn’t Meet His Needs
Forgive me for going all “Venus and Mars” on you but, as individuals, we have needs in romantic relationships. If those needs aren’t met, love dies.

And, I’m not talking about big needs either. If you lived, day in and day out taking care of the children, cooking, cleaning and doing laundry, meeting your girlfriends for lunch or hold up in your craft room with a hot glue gun you probably had very little time left over for him.

5. You Didn’t Put Enough Effort into Resolving Marital Conflict
Problems are common in all marriages. Both spouses need to have the ability to constructively work through those problems. When a wife avoids finding solutions to marital problems, leaving her husband holding the bag, love eventually dies.

Putting the onus on him to solve problems by refusing counseling or communicating about the problems causes resentment to grow toward you and the relationship.

Unresolved marital conflict, especially when a wife tries to sweep them under the rug, negatively impacts feelings of love her husband has for her.

6. You Stopped Caring About Your Appearance
You let yourself go. You gained 50 pounds with your first baby and never lost it, you started wearing nothing but sweat pants and just generally became someone no one would find attractive.

7. You Rejected Him Sexually
Sex in marriage is important because it brings a couple closer together. If a couple has a great sexual bond they can weather almost any storm. In a sexless marriage, there is no bond, storms are not weathered!
8. Being a Mother Was First on Your List of Priorities
Without your husband, you wouldn’t have children to put first. For that reason, don’t be surprised when your husband falls out of love due to feeling ignored, unimportant and dismissed.

9. You Were Impossible to Please
It didn’t matter what he did, you were never grateful. He washed the dishes and you bitched at him for not wiping down the counter tops. He worked overtime to take you on the vacation of your dreams and you whined the entire time you were on the trip.
Whatever he did, you took his efforts for granted and failed to show appreciation for his efforts.

10. You Changed After Marrying Him
Before marriage, you were up for anything. You enjoyed going out with him, doing things he was interested in. You were invested in your career, had a full and rewarding life. You were the total package!

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